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Can You Pray For Yourself

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Is it easier to pray for others and not yourself? You know your heart and struggles more than anyone else does, besides God, so you praying for yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

“One of the key elements in prayer is petitioning, or praying for yourself. Some people shy away from such prayers, thinking that it violates humility and draws attention to themselves rather than God.

Yet, it’s absolutely biblical. In fact, Jesus petitioned the following the night before He was crucified: “Father … glorify Me together with Yourself, with the glory which I had with you before the world was” (John 17:5).

If Jesus needed to pray for Himself, then I certainly need to pray for myself. That said, ponder these eleven personal requests I’ve started bringing daily to God.” Christian Index

Is It Selfish To Pray For Yourself

“God wants us to grow in faith and wisdom and love and in so many other ways. It is only logical that we should be praying for ourselves in these ways. Praying for yourself is not selfish; it is necessary. Just as flight attendants instruct adults to put on their oxygen masks before helping children in an emergency, if we do not pray for ourselves we are more vulnerable to the attacks of the enemy. Arm yourself with prayer and you will grow in faith.” – lifeloveandjesus

“The Lord’s Prayer is the model Christ gave us for praying (Matthew 6:9-13).  Here He tells us to pray for our needs: Give us this day our daily bread.  He directs us to seek God’s forgiveness for our own wrongdoings: Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.  He instructs us to seek His direction and protection for our lives: And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.  And He tells us to ask it all for the good of His kingdom and the greatness of His glory: For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory forever.

Many times I’ve heard people, especially women, say, “I spend so much time praying for others that I don’t have time to pray for myself,” or “I feel selfish praying about my own needs.” Some even say, “I’m too unworthy. God couldn’t possibly hear my prayer.”  Looking through the Psalms we see that David certainly didn’t feel that way!  He prayed constantly for his own needs, for forgiveness, for protection and direction, and asked it all to the praise and glory of his Redeemer.  No my friend, the prayer God rejects isn’t the one you pray for yourself, it’s the one you pray with a heart full of conceit and self-sufficiency.  So take your joys and sorrows to the Lord. He longs to take your burden and replace it with a blessing.  He thrills to hear your praise.” CCESONLINE

How Do We Pray For Ourselves

“It’s time to examine your life. Ask yourself if there any unconfessed sin in your life that may be blocking you from receiving the power of prayer?

The Bible tells us, “If I had not confessed the sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened” (Psalm 66:18).

Doing this requires us to look deep into our own hearts and lives. Begin by asking yourself: Do I have bad motives? Is there anything or anyone that I love more than God?

As these things come to light and you become more aware of what’s separating you from God, ask Him for His forgiveness. The act of repentance pleases God and restores our fellowship with Him.” beliefnet

“Whatever you do, don’t let go of the life of prayer. Seek to deepen it and saturate it with the word of God.”

John Piper

If you are asking “How To Pray”, use this easy to remember 3 step guide to prayer: Rejoice, Repent and Request.

Rejoice – Give thanks! Thank God for even the small blessings in your life. Be grateful in your prayers.

Repent – Ask God to help you see your sin clearly, ask Him to forgive you and to help you to completely walk away from that sin.

Request – Humbly ask God for things you are needing.

What is the right way to pray for yourself and others?

Start praying for yourself, asking God to forgive you where you fall short and to help you move forward in your day to honor him. Thank God for His blessings, even the small things are a gift from God. Then humbly ask Him for your needs to be met.

Then move out from there. Pray for your spouse and children, your siblings and parents, your extended family and co-workers, your friends and church, your pastor and the church staff, your community and state, the country and world and so on.

Pray and read scripture and then pray again. Remember the 3 Rs. Rejoice, Repent and Request. I also like to write out scripture during my prayer time.

How Does God Want Us To Pray


I have a long list of people, situations, and things I pray for, but I often forget to pray for me. How often do you pray for yourself?

I put myself on the back burner of my prayer life. 

My prayer wall is covered in taped letters and notes. I read and pray with clinched fists over each one. 

I remind myself of God’s word and promises. I let the scriptures soak in my heart and thoughts as I spend this time with God. Oh, do I enjoy this time with my Savior!

But all too often, for whatever reason, I do not pray in depth for myself.

Until now! I started using a guided prayer journal and here is how I use a prayer journal to help me stay focused in my prayer time.  


I feel guilty for praying for myself


Do you feel guilty when you want to pray for yourself? I know guilt and shame are not from our Heavenly Father. It is high time we deal with this issue. 


What’s the best way to deal with a problem? In prayer and the Holy scriptures, of course!


Our best example for us to look at is Jesus himself. He often withdrew from the crowds to pray. (Luke 5:16)


In the model prayer that Jesus gives in Matthew 6:5-13, we are shown to ask for our daily needs and forgiveness of sins as well as seek help to forgive others. 

I’m reminded in Psalm 34:18 and Psalm 147:3 that God is near the broken-hearted.


Revelation 21:4 speaks of God’s loving gentleness in wiping away our tears. That is such a loving, endearing moment of God sharing and healing our pain. 

Cling To Prayer

“Whatever you do, don’t let go of the life of prayer. Seek to deepen it and saturate it with the word of God. Don’t assume that you just heard from me the best model. Compared to some church patterns in the world, my pattern is pitiful. It’s just pitiful. And compared to others, it was significant. But don’t assume it was ideal.

Seek the Lord. He may have something very different and better for you, the church, and the world. This is one of the reasons I’m so passionate about pressing the prayer life into pastors.

The church and the world do not need more efficient, psychologically savvy, culturally informed, managerially skilled executives in the pastorate. We don’t need any more of that. What the church needs, what the world needs to taste, is men in whose presence Christ has been. Men of God who have the savor of life to life and death to death because they’ve been in the presence of the aroma of Christ.” – Desiring God

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29 thoughts on “Can You Pray For Yourself”

  1. Good reminder. And I love the clean white-space feel of your blog. And I love that you linked dropped with author4TheAuthor. Nice. Nice for me. hahaha. I do need the reminder too.

  2. I had this mindset for a long time as well Starla. Somehow God changed it and I now realize no one can go to war for things in my life like I can. Jesus said, ask and it will be given, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened." If we never ask God or intercede for our lives who knows what we might miss out on. Great post!

  3. I actually have been cultivating this for the year. I've longed to build the intimacy that comes through regular prayer. I sometimes struggle to pray for those outside of my immediate circle of influence. Great post. It's good to see that the Body is made up of many different parts.

  4. I'm not sure, I just talk to God often in my thoughts, especially when something good happens in my life. That's my version of praying. I pray for others too and that's something that I don't want to miss out.

  5. I was terribly sick this weekend, AGAIN. I'm beat and I'm frustrated. I finally broke down in my War Room and prayed for myself. Not just for patience or strength, but actually for healing. To have more days of feeling better. To have a chance to get productive. But I don't generally pray like that for myself. And God convicted me of it. Thanks for affirming what I heard Him direct in my heart. Why wouldn't I pray for my own struggles once in awhile? Silly me, of course He wants to hear my hurts.

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